I recently gave birth to my daughter Francesca 6 months ago in August. In October, I had an IUD put in. 3 days ago, I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I went to the gyno. today, and she checked me. Nothing went wrong with my IUD, it was completely in place. She just said I was obviously very fertile if I got pregnant with and IUD, and plus with breast feeding. My family is extremely judgmental, and when I got pregnant with my daughter, they were all very upset. I just do not want the same thing to happen; will my family try and find a reason to be disappointed in me even though this isn’t my fault? I am engaged to be married to their father in June, 2011. He works full time and makes $13 an hour, with benefits. We are both in school, he’s soon to be enrolled in police academy, i’m graduating high school (1 year late) with a 3.5 gpa, and then moving on to city college. My cousin is very upset with me for not getting the abortion; I even have our conversation on facebook. I will post it, and please tell me if you think she is right. She’s Maria, and i’m Natasha Iera.
Maria March 1 at 11:38pm
I don’t think this is the best thing to do but it is your decision. I know I am not in your shoes but I know that Francesca isn’t going to be the center of your world, anymore. I have watched you grow so much, Natasha but this is just beginning to get out of control. What if it happens again?
At this point, I am going to be real with you. You are not going to be able to be a lawyer with two babies at age 18. You are not going to have this amazing wedding you were planning. I know you don’t want to hear it but if you thought you were sacrificing when you had Francesca, then now you will really know true sacrifice.
Consider adoption, if you don’t want to get an abortion, please. At least that way you could guarantee both babies a good life.
Natasha Iera March 1 at 11:50pm
Maria, the last thing i’m thinking about is what i’m going to have to sacrifice. At this point, I don’t even matter, I am not worried about myself. As long as I still go to college and get a stable job, everything else doesn’t matter.
Maria March 2 at 12:01am
Please think about this rationally. You cannot just have a baby because you feel obligated. You should want this baby, you should be ready for this baby & you are not.
Francesca is going to be neglected. Can you forgive yourself for that?
Maria March 2 at 12:10am
I’m sorry. I know you don’t need this but neither do I.
I can’t do this. I have been crying all weekend over this but obviously I don’t mean nearly as much to you as you do to me.
I’ll give you your space. You make your own decisions. Maybe it is just better that we are cousins so you don’t have to really see me all that often, anymore. Make the right choice, please.
Good luck, Natasha.
Natasha Iera March 2 at 9:47am
"Francesca is going to be neglected. Can you forgive yourself for that?" You’re ******* kidding, right? Did you ever once stop and ******* think about me?? What i’m going through? Oh, and i’m sorry that i’m putting you through so much! Let me go ahead and make things easier on you, okay? This is ******* ridiculous, please don’t message me again.
your choice should be between your man and you only, dont worry about what other family says or thinks.. theyll always be there in the end and will get over it, however if you abort or adopt and truly dont want to you will regret it for the rest of your life. thats the best advise i can give.
good luck