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i know iim young and im not here for lecture id just like to include my age in case it has anything to do with anything. im 17(already graduated high school), my fiance is 20(he graduated 2 and a half years ago( were getting married this october, 2010. weve been together 3 years. and weve lived together 2 years. in our own home for 1 year. we are financially stable have been saving money for a baby for a year and a half. we both have jobs that pay pretty well. we live in a 3 bedroom home. my sister in law is here as well she rents a room. well. heres the story.
i got pregnant from 1 night of 1 mistake, i got pregnant very easily. we just made 1 mistake 1 night!!!
well. sadly that ended in a missed miscarriage. it was a year and a half ago. i didnt naturally miscarry so i had to have a d&c. well i bleed like a waterfall for over 2 weeks, with huge clots!!!!! the doc didnt care, i called. i had tons of milk coming out of both breast. he said it was normal. also after the heavy bleeding stopped i would spot mostly brown with some blood every other few days for a few months? probably about 3 so all together including the heavy bleeding about 4 months. then finally i went to the docs. because wen id call they say i was fine. i jsut went in. they put me up on a table and opened me up with some metal props? and pulled out some almost plum sized object? said it was probably an old clot. this was from a whole new insurance i switched from medical to kaiser. well. then after he pulled that out immediately the spotting stopped! then i started getting my absolute normal periods. every 26th or 27th of the month for 7 days. so i have about a 20 day cycle? i dont know what he did if he left scaring? my tubes are blocked? maybe my progesterone is high or low, or i have boy hormones still, i dont know! but weve been trying to get pregnant again for going on 8 months? i know i ovulate i test every month. and i have sex usually the day before the positive the day of and 2 days following,!!! what can it be? if the doc was too rough and left scaring or i got an infection from the d&c and i have scaring is it fixable is blocked tubes fixable i dont think its ashers sydrome i dont have a light period!!! what can it be is all of it fixable? im not 18 quite yet. so will a doctor see me if i go with my mother? its been a year and a half and my right breast still lets some milk out if i squueeze? whats wrong with me!!!! please help!!!! im very mature for my age, the oldest out of 7 children. ive cared for them from newborn till a year ago!!!! ive helped my mother alot. everyone tells me what a great mother i will make! please help me!
i meant to say i have about a 30 day cycle not 20, sorry im typing on a cell phone its hard.
i have a new doc now in kaiser, but will the see me since im underage? my mother will come if necessary?
It doesn’t sound like anything is wrong with you, not really. I spotted after my medical abortion until a hunk of tissue finally came out of me weeks after. If you have insurance then you just need to see a fertility specialist so they can check you out and make sure you do not have scar tissue or blockages. I think you are fine though, if after a whole year of trying then you and he need to be checked out.
You may want to try this to regulate your cycles. I use this every time I get off birth control, after my miscarriages, my abortion and after the birth of my daughter; it helps me transition without going crazy.
Chaste Tree Berry (Vitex)
Chasteberry has the effect of stimulating and normalizing pituitary gland functions, especially its progesterone function. The greatest use of Vitex Agnus Castus – or Chasteberry – lies in normalizing the activity of female sex hormones and it is thus indicated for dysmenorrhoea, premenstrual stress and other disorders related to hormone function. It is especially beneficial during menopausal changes. In a similar way it may be used to aid the body to regain a natural balance after the use of the birth control pill. Because it can increase progesterone and extend the luteal phase, some women begin taking it when they ovulate, though regular daily use is indicated in the promotion of fertility.
As vitex is safe, it may be used by women seeking to become pregnant to increase chances of conception. More specifically, it can be used by women with irregular ovulatory function and by women with shorter luteal phases. Vitex may also be used after discontinuing use of birth control pills to restore normal ovulation.
http://gaiaherbs.com/product.php?id=268
This is what I buy, I would recommend taking it everyday for at least 3 cycles and seeing how it works for you.
Women who have breastfed can ‘leak’ milk for years after they stopped nursing, that’s normal. Also you shoudl up your intake of folic acid, iron and take a multi-vitamin everyday.
If you have any more questions or want/need to talk about it drop me an email.
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion <no regrets> and I have a 14 month old daughter <no regrets>. I believe in protecting my daughter’s choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUvgo
Ps – For afterwards . . . . .
The best suggestion I can make is get a Paragard – these reasons I got mine; no hormones (can’t do regular birth control due to the synthetic hormones), is idiot proof (no pills, patches or rings to remember or forget) and it’s good for up to 12 yrs. Also it’s compatible with breastfeeding.
Paragard.com